What is love again?

Someone: What is love?

Me: God?

Someone: No... i want you to tell me what you learned so far, not some ideal answer...

Me: Ok... What i do know about it is that it's a lot of things. A mom feeding a child is love. A dad scolding his son is also love. A sister chasing her brother can be too. That hug from the child to the parents is also heart warming. It can be a feeling, when we feel something for someone. It can also be a choice, when we can choose to either ignore or help someone. It can be that kid helping that old lady cross the street, that man giving up the seat for someone who needs it more. It can also be this(link), this(link) and this(link). That's how much it covers i guess. Still learning as i go along.

Someone: But is that all you learned so far?

Me: Don't think so... Still got some stuffs i probably can't remember at the moment. Another one is that it can also mean holding on to something/someone cause you want to protect it/someone and let it have a better future, or letting it/someone go cause it's the better thing to do. Holding on is what many people know how to. It the letting go that seems so hard sometimes.

Someone: Why does it seem so hard anyway? Isn't letting go just letting go?

Me: Sometimes, you get so used to somethings in life, that letting of of them seems like the end of the world, cause they were part of it. It's like having part of yourself being ripped out, like losing a body part and becoming handicapped. But when you realise that holding isn't going to help them, what are you supposed to do? Hold on and deter the person from developing in life? That would be selfish, wouldn't it? So letting go may not be the easiest thing to do, but sometimes its the right thing to do, and if you really love that person, you will.

Someone: The concept of if it's meant to be yours, it will be?

Me: Not the point, at least for me. You don't really bother if the person comes back or not, it's more like that if that person is fine and happy, learning from life and becoming a better person. Somehow it joyful to see someone you care about becoming a more better person each day.

Someone: What if the person isn't fine and happy, or just not becoming any better at all? And becoming worst instead?

Me: Ah... Where did all these questions come from? I guess i'm still looking for the answers too. I guess my first reckless reaction will be to try and do something. But i guess sometimes people don't learn lessons until they "bang their heads against the wall". If you asked me what i knew about love a year ago, i would have probably said something that wouldn't even make sense at all. But now, after "banging" so many times, i know a little more than i did then. A teeny little bit more. These people may fall down and bruise themselves a little, but i'll be there for them if they need a hand. (:

Someone: But what if there is absolutly nothing you can do to help at all?

Me: I pray. And i pray not as a last resort. It's more of a all the time thing. You can't be there for them all the time, but God can. When i'm powerless, He's strong. Entrusting them to God helps with the needless worries, be it for life or them. Maybe i pray alot cause i'm insecure, have too much worries and think too much. But believeing that there's this powerful person taking care of those things we treasure, those things we love, helps alot with life. But it doesn't mean we take what we have for granted and stop doing anything altogether. When the time is right, we'll probably know what to do.

Someone: What if this someone of this group of people special to you hurts you? And deeply too? Will you still love them? Or will you end up hating them?

Me: Ha... If i ever end up hating anyone for long cause of this, my parents would have been my first targets already. It's hard to forgive at first, cause, at least for me, wondered about "why would i be hurt anyway? Doesn't this person love me too?" But i learned to look inside of myself, and ask myself if i've ever hurt them in anyway. We humans are falliable beings, and it shows that all the more we should forgive one another. If we make mistakes, we apologise and learn. And a quote i saw recently to round it off: "Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov

Someone: Then do you think love sacrifices?

Me: Love doesn't sacrifice, but sacrifice can show love... Ok, not sure about this yet... Or i may be a bit too tired to think... Ask me again in 6 months? =x I'm still learning new stuffs everyday, hopefully one day i'll be able to at least know a little of what love is about. (: